We made it to our first synagogue experience in Brazil!
We went down to the synagogue a bit early (around 5:30; services started at 7) because there are lots of street closures downtown for Carnaval and we weren’t sure how long it would take. We located the synagogue just to make sure we knew where it was, and then went to find a snack. We ended up down the block at an Arabic place and got a few carne and veggie fritters (almost like oblong falafels) and some sweet baklava-like desserts. (But NOT baklava – I asked “baklava?” and the woman behind the counter said, “para levar?”, ie, to go?)
We killed as much time as we could and then showed up at the synagogue around 6:45. We presented ourselves to the guard outside who knew who we were immediately, asking for the guy in the office to hand over the copies of our passports that we had emailed to the secretary last week (along with our CPF numbers and the name of the synagogue we attend in Boston and its rabbi). He waved us in and asked if we’d been there before, with none of the interrogation I had been expecting after my last experience (Guatemala, 2003). Duck and I had had a conversation about what ID to bring, especially since we were going to be near Carnaval stuff and were nervous about getting pickpocketed. In the end we brought our driver’s licenses and CPF cards, not our passports, in my small black purse and it was fine. I also put my Star of David necklace back on for the first time since we went to the Lebanese church. I had left it off partly so as not to out myself as Jewish and partly because we’d been warned against wearing jewelry at Carnaval (I didn’t wear my watch on Wednesday night, for example), but I left my wedding ring on in equal parts because: I like it, it was inexpensive, and if someone can actually get it off my finger, more power to ‘em.
The guard walked us in and through a space that was less of a hall and more of a room and had really long leather sectional sofas. Off of this space were bathrooms, a staircase going up, some smaller rooms (an office?), and a room at the back where a group of maybe 15-20 people were mingling and drinking coffee. The guard got the attention of an older man, who greeted us warmly (and whose name I didn’t catch but turned out to be the chazzan) and asked if we were from Israel. He introduced us to a guy in his 50’s or 60’s named Chaim and generally fussed about us and got us water – the bottle on the table was empty so he took two cups outside to a bebedor on the patio (which was next to a pool! Fancy).
We didn’t meet many people because people pretty promptly shuffled upstairs to the sanctuary at about 6:55, but it seems this mingling happens every Shabbat at 6:30. There were about 25-30 people at the service in the end, which surprised me (more than I expected; as the chazzan said, especially because it’s Carnaval – I had been wondering what impact Carnaval has on the Jewish community, if people treat it as completely secular or if they abstain from celebrating because of its Christian roots).
In the sanctuary, there were rows of pews facing front with a balcony above that was unused. The bimah had some pretty aggressive stained glass and many surfaces covered in what looked like blue velvet cloths that had gold tassels and sequins spelling out chai or in the shape of a Star of David. We sat on the right-hand side near the front, right behind a row of people all there together; they stood for the mourner’s kaddish so I think they don’t come a lot and only came for mourner’s kaddish. Down our row to the right and maybe one row behind us was a man and woman who were talking nearly the whole time; Jews the world over talk through services, it seems. There was a woman singing very loudly and semi off-key a row or two right behind us and a row of about 9 people in the front pew of the left side all wearing white shirts and black/blue pants who turned out to be the chorus. In front of the choir was a young man who played an upright piano that was somehow amplified in the way that temple instruments are way over-amplified. At one point Duck commented that he was playing completely from memory, but I noticed he had a smartphone propped up on the piano’s music stand so I bet he had some music on there.
The chazzan put on a traditional Ashkenazi giant tallis, which I found really comforting to see, and did a pretty traditional, if abbreviated, Ashkenazi kabbalat shabbat, all singing except for the page calls and an occasional reading in Portuguese. The website said the synagogue was “egalitarian and inclusive, in the spirit of liberal and reformist communities around the world” which is pretty vague so I wasn’t totally sure what to expect, even down to how much Hebrew there would be or whether there would be a mechitza. (There wasn’t, which is good; the synagogue I went to in Guatemala had one, which meant that the non-Jewish male friend I brought with me once couldn’t sit with me and nearly got kicked out and I was low-key nervous about such a separation from Duck, though he knows the service pretty well and how to handle himself in Jewish spaces.)
We sang Yedid Nefesh, 2-3 psalms (salmos), and an abbreviated L’cha Dodi (1,2, 5, and 9). He mostly did tunes I recognized (or mostly recognized with slight variations) which was lovely, including tzadik katamar. There was an interesting song that was sung responsively – maybe Yedid Nefesh? Ma’ariv was really short and silent, with a repetition, followed by a medium-length Aleinu. Two people read longer speeches that I didn’t understand; the second one was maybe a d’var.
At one point while the second person was reading her thing, the chazzan gestured to Chaim, who came up to the edge of the bimah and the chazzan bent down and whispered into his ear, and then he came up to us and asked our names. We told him, and then he went back to the chazzan, who nodded. Duck looked at me and I said, he might say something about us, to welcome us, but he could also invite us up on the bimah to do something. It reminded me of the time in Phoenix when my two goy friends and I were invited up on the bimah for Kiddush and I was horribly embarrassed. For some reason I wasn’t embarrassed this time. Anyway, it turns out the chazzan was just welcoming different people, including the group in front of us and the two of us, who he said were from the US. After, at the Kiddush, a few people came up to us to greet us in English and we got many warm “shabbat shaloms” which was nice.
The trippiest thing was trying to follow along in the transliteration. It seems that in Portuguese transliterations, the chet, with its guttural ch, is written as an underlined r (r) not to be confused with the regular r, which was pronounced as a resh. For example: “Mi ramora baelim Adonai, mi camora nedar bacodesh.” Ha! Also where we might have a y and another vowel, they just put an i. I was also enthralled by the fact that they did Mi Sheberach with the Debbie Friedman tune but subbed in Hebrew for the English parts. I’ll try to get my hands on a copy of that one.
The service ended with a rousing singing of Shabbat Shalom (hey!) for which the chazzan joined the choir and they all stood together at the front, and then we were invited up to the third floor for Kiddush. At Kiddush, we talked to a woman whose son lives in a suburb of Philadelphia and a guy named Tiago who told us his name (Tiago, Santiago, James) comes from Jacob, which I didn’t know. It seems that the rabbi moved or retired or something and the previous rabbi comes back every other week; he’ll be back next Friday and we should meet him, Tiago said. The chazzan fussed over us again, bringing us challah after motzi and urging us toward the table of snacks and desserts. They served Manischewitz for kiddush, which delighted me.
Overall people were really friendly and I am looking forward to going back! We were among the last to leave and walked a couple of blocks up to the bloco, which was again pretty boring, and then we caught an Uber home. Duck asked the driver to let us off at the bloco by our house but I thought he meant he wanted to just walk the rest of the way and I was wearing dumb shoes so I pushed back. Once we were home I realized Duck had wanted to go to the bloco so I offered to change my shoes so we could go out but inertia caught us and we just went to bed.